Advanced Praise For Unlearning Silence
“A necessary read. With empathy and clarity... Unlearning Silence offers an opportunity and tools to change things within and around us – for ourselves and those we love.”
—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and co-host of the Dear Therapists podcast

About the Book
A paradigm-shifting book looking at the negative impact of silence and how we can begin to dismantle it in order to find our voices at home and at work.
Having a seat at the table doesn’t mean that your voice is actually welcome. Knowing something is wrong doesn’t mean it’s easy to speak up. There are incentives for many of us to stay silent. Why speak up if you know that it won’t be received well, and in fact, often makes things worse?
In Unlearning Silence, Hering explores how we’ve learned to be silent, how we’ve benefited from silence, how we’ve silenced other people—and how we might choose another way. She teaches how to recognize and unlearn unconscious patterns so we can make more intentional choices about how we want to show up. Only by unlearning silence can we more fully unleash talent, speak our minds, and be more complete versions of ourselves…
and help other people do the same.
With compassion, clarity, and understanding, Hering guides readers through real-life examples and offers a concrete road map for doing this vital and challenging work.
Pre-Order Bonuses
When You Order 3 Books
You’ll Get Access to:
- Downloadable reader’s reflection journal (PDF)
When You Order 5 Books
You’ll Get Access to:
- Downloadable reader’s reflection journal (PDF)
- 5 licenses to “Solve for Silence” SMS based digital course
When You Order 10 Books
You’ll Get Access to:
- Downloadable reader’s reflection journal (PDF)
- 10 licenses to “Solve for Silence” SMS based digital course
- Group discussion guide + facilitator’s notes (PDF)
When You Order 100+ Books
You’ll Get Access to:
- Downloadable reader’s reflection journal (PDF)
- 100 licenses to “Solve for Silence” SMS based digital course
- Group discussion guide + facilitator’s notes (PDF)
- 45 minute pre-recorded webinar by Elaine
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Additional Praise for Unlearning Silence
I’ve rarely felt so seen and understood as when I read these pages. Creativity and innovation flow when people know how to use their voices, and leaders learn how to notice and disrupt patterns of silencing that haunt so many organizations, families and communities.
Books tell us to just be more confident. To show up and then speak up. Elaine goes deeper and shows us that the silence we’ve been indoctrinated by runs deep and it is what holds us back and makes us feel small. A must read for every leader.
– and innovate our way into the future – if we perpetually silence ourselves and others. Elaine turns conventional, inadequate advice to “just speak up” into actionable and effective strategies. A game changer for teams and leaders everywhere.
Elaine has brilliantly pulled together a much needed roadmap for those looking to use the strength of their voice to build the teams, lives, and companies we need, while bringing out the best from the people they lead.
About Elaine
Elaine specializes in communication, collaboration, and conflict management. She’s been faculty at Harvard Law School and Managing Partner of a global leadership development firm. Most importantly, she wants people to be able to live fully.
How I Can Help
1
Author
I write about effective communication, using your voice, and how to fully unleash talent.
2
Speaker
From keynotes to workshops, I use relatable, real-world examples to engage and equip participants.
3
Facilitator
Trained as a mediator and lawyer, but with values of humanity and connection, I help people navigate differences.